We all want everything to be perfect. This includes, the car or the house we buy, the life partner we choose, and of course our jobs. We are never satisfied with good enough. Are we? If you are then that’s great!
When we want everything around us to be perfect, then my question is are we perfect? Can you sell yourself to you? And I don’t mean “selling yourself” in any derogatory sense but how self aware are you? How confident are you in your abilities?
If you can put hand on heart and list out your abilities confidently, you can sell yourself to a recruiter, if you know your personal values, no one should be able to make you do something that is unethical, if you know what is important to you say family over work you will stop burning the midnight oil at work. Self awareness instills confidence in your abilities and in turn makes you enjoy your life much more.
Selling is not being attractive from the outside. You can wear fancy shoes and watches but of what use is it if you cannot understand your very being or core or if you continue keeping up with the Joneses despite not wanting to?
If you think that there is a difference between the “real” you and the “role” you, use the ‘selling yourself to you’ in all walks of life as an introspective tool. This should help you achieve change, perhaps some deep personal change with new habits.
Stephen Covey in his famous book ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” talks about habit as an intersection of knowledge, skills and desire. He quotes “Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do).”
Covey further emphasizes that we cannot produce deep personal change without forming habits. I can explain habit using my situation as an example:-
Knowledge – If I don’t have the knowledge then what do I write in this column at MarketExpress?
- Skills – I cannot explain my understanding or share my knowledge without the right skills i.e. writing
- Desire – If I have knowledge and the skills but don’t want to share it then it doesn’t become a weekly habit to produce articles for this column.
Remember, if you want to create personal change you must ring out the old and ring in the new habits.
For those who haven’t read Stephen Covey, time to read it…
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